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Bitch got some audacity
I have no clue what her end game is but Emily's sister needs to back the fuck off. Ok, the dumbass birthday party for the sister was over two weeks ago. Then we hosted again the next week for the twin nibblings' birthdays. The first one I posted about how it was awkward but seemed to go ok until I was in the bedroom and heard her sister throwing a hissy fit and Emily's older niece started crying. Whaaatever. Honey, keep that up and you'll soon be wondering why your kids went no contact once they're able to fend for themselves.
The twins party seemed a little better, though I could see her sister looking supremely pissy when we dared have pleasant conversation with her sister's ex. Good grief.
So today, Emily had to meet up with her sister at their Mom's nursing home to talk about her care. Her sister decided to get there at least an hour earlier than she told Emily (clearly a passive aggressive move and attempt to look like Emily is a shitty daughter). They're pondering whether it's time for hospice care. Neither of them know what that exactly that entails but evidently that must not have come up in conversation with the folks at the home. They did talk about if she has a fall or something, to not do any sort of large procedures, etc. Anyway, Emily's sister must've asked Emily to have lunch after.
Wherein her sister started IN on Emily. Trying to shame her for things such as the fact that we didn't have plastic containers for them to take home leftovers from her party (BITCH, WE WEREN'T EVEN TOTALLY MOVED IN) and supposedly how Emily didn't greet the current wife at the Twins' thing and yadda yadda yadda. She clearly didn't like that Emily was NOT about to apologize since she did NOTHING wrong but her sister doubled down and Emily told me she got up, told her sister "fuck you" and walked out, leaving her with the bill.
I told Emily I was proud of her for standing up to her sister but I know it bothers her. It seems to me that her sister isn't happy with the choices she made and is projecting it all over everyone. Well everyone is tired of your shit, Nora.
Evidently her sister tried taking charge when their dad died several years ago, trying to tell the lawyers that she was the executor, when Emily is the primary and Nora is the secondary. She can't be trusted. If her mom doesn't have long left, once the dust settles and they've split things, I think her sister is going to be surprised that Emily won't want anything more to do with her gaslighting and abuse.
The twins party seemed a little better, though I could see her sister looking supremely pissy when we dared have pleasant conversation with her sister's ex. Good grief.
So today, Emily had to meet up with her sister at their Mom's nursing home to talk about her care. Her sister decided to get there at least an hour earlier than she told Emily (clearly a passive aggressive move and attempt to look like Emily is a shitty daughter). They're pondering whether it's time for hospice care. Neither of them know what that exactly that entails but evidently that must not have come up in conversation with the folks at the home. They did talk about if she has a fall or something, to not do any sort of large procedures, etc. Anyway, Emily's sister must've asked Emily to have lunch after.
Wherein her sister started IN on Emily. Trying to shame her for things such as the fact that we didn't have plastic containers for them to take home leftovers from her party (BITCH, WE WEREN'T EVEN TOTALLY MOVED IN) and supposedly how Emily didn't greet the current wife at the Twins' thing and yadda yadda yadda. She clearly didn't like that Emily was NOT about to apologize since she did NOTHING wrong but her sister doubled down and Emily told me she got up, told her sister "fuck you" and walked out, leaving her with the bill.
I told Emily I was proud of her for standing up to her sister but I know it bothers her. It seems to me that her sister isn't happy with the choices she made and is projecting it all over everyone. Well everyone is tired of your shit, Nora.
Evidently her sister tried taking charge when their dad died several years ago, trying to tell the lawyers that she was the executor, when Emily is the primary and Nora is the secondary. She can't be trusted. If her mom doesn't have long left, once the dust settles and they've split things, I think her sister is going to be surprised that Emily won't want anything more to do with her gaslighting and abuse.
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Hopefully she can just do her best with her mom and then she won't have any need to communicate with her sister going forward.
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There will be drama (and paperwork) and such but hopefully it can be navigated without a ridiculous amount of fuss so that they can split things and be done with one another.
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It really does make me feel grateful that my brothers are not assholes and that we get along!
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The sister coming to the house again, yeah that does not need to happen. Y'all hosted her birthday, the birthday for her kids. Sister can go F off!
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Going into hospice basically means no longer trying to cure whatever the person is dying from and just keeping them comfortable and pain free. In a nursing home situation, I don't know if that involves any change in actual environment like moving her to a different unit. In cancer patients it means stopping chemo and radiation. In heart patients, a lot of the meds and the O2 continue because difficulty breathing is painful.
If Emily's mother is dealing with dementia, just putting her on DNR (do not resusitate) status is probably all that is needed. DNR does not mean that if she has a fall and breaks an arm they will leave it untreated: it will be set and put in a cast because otherwise it would be painful. It just means that if the fall was caused by her heart stopping they will not do CPR or take any steps to restart the heart.
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Only thing I would ask about is what they do when she stops eating (even being hand fed). Some places go the nasal tube feeding route rather than letting them starve and some don't.
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Narcissistic bitch.