Update

[missdiane]

Got a call at 7am to give permission for anesthesia. Dad was scheduled to be the first surgery of the day. Let them know about prior issue back in 2021 with mini stroke during surgery.

Sis sent me a screenshot a while later of Dad's chart that the anesthesiologist canceled the surgery when Dad's aFib started in and his pulse rate spiked. Damn. Anesthesiologist gave me a call a little while after that and let me know that to be on the safe side, he sent Dad down to ICU to have cardiology check him out and they got him stable and if he stays stable, they would try again. (side note, after trying to text and message updates to folks today, I have now learned how to spell anesthesiologist after letting spell check correct me several times)

A few hours later got a call from another nice physician - I'll have to say all of the folks that have called have been incredibly nice and thorough and informative. We had a talk about several things regarding Dad physically and mentally - had to clarify that he is DNR because I know that's his wishes and they didn't have it on his chart that way. He would NOT want anything drastic to be done if things went wonky. Anyway, she let me know that second attempt at surgery will be tomorrow since they gave Dad a meal. They are also going to have their...ironically can't brain for the word I want so I'll go with "mental health people"...see what they can do for Dad during his physical recovery to help with his paranoia/delusions/meds so he does NOT have to go back to the place where he suffered the fall.

Thanks for all the good vibes so far and keep 'em coming. They are so SO appreciated. I wanted to unplug today some and go to the rose and sensory garden at a nearby park but they don't open until 10 on the weekend and I got there just a few minutes after 10 and either they opened early or people flooded in because the parking lot was full except for one disabled space I took and the place was absolutely MOBBED. I tried going in but barely made it past the gate before the masses of people spooked me to turn around and leave. I knew I wouldn't get any peace and quiet. The rest of the park was mostly closed off, I guess for some event, so since it was already getting warm and since I had to go to the bathroom, I just drove home. I was upset and teary on the way from all the stress and frustration and wanting some green therapy.

I'm trying to think of someplace to go tomorrow morning. I really wanted to go to the rose garden. I would ordinarily just stay home but I'm getting the feeling that even with my very unpredictable tummy, that I need to get out of the house in the morning before it gets warm again. Maybe I'll go pick up a treat at one of the coffee shops I like and take it home or something. I'm also thinking about taking Monday or Tuesday morning off and driving back over to the rose garden. For one, it'll be far less crowded on a weekday and secondly, they open at 8am during the week which I'm an early bird so it will be ideal.

One good thing is that Bosslady is in Italy for the next two weeks - the first for a conference and the second for vacation and I told her I'd take some of my remaining vacation days for the fiscal year likely during that time to make it convenient which she was fine with.

I'm very sleepy and numb today which is not good. I haven't made the effort to try to figure out how to call Dad yet which I feel guilty for but I'm just worn too thin.

Comments

[halfmoon_mollie1]

You don't need to be bursting into tears while talking to your Dad. He'd feel guilty, The important thing here is for you to take care of yourself. Some green therepy sounds wonderful.

[missdiane]

I know they're taking good care of him. I just hope he's not feeling isolated. Hoping for better news with surgery tomorrow.

I know this is a naughty treat but I'm tempted to go get this from Frappe Joe in the morning. If I got a coffee to go with it, I'd DEFINITELY not be able to eat and drink them until I get to the safety of home.

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[halfmoon_mollie1]

Yeah, the niece is taking me to brunch as a consolation for Susie not being able to be here for my birthday. I don't think I'll find anything like this...yum!

[missdiane]

The fancy coffee was "meh" but that donut was amazing. I'll be paying for the indulgence shortly I'm sure since everything sets off the stomach. I hope you had/have a good brunch!

[halfmoon_mollie1]

I had eggs Benedict and it was delicious. They were delicious?

[missdiane]

Ooooo, I haven't had eggs benedict in years. I should make some since hollandaise is really easy to make in a blender.

[halfmoon_mollie1]

there is a place in town called "Just one Bite" and J and I went there one morning for breakfast. The waitress was very sweet...and told us all about the eggs Benedict 'with Holiday Sauce'. We both managed to keep a straight face until she walked away. We haven't been back since (food was good, service was slow) but occaisonally we say we should go back 'to the holiday sauce place'.

[missdiane]

Holiday sauce. heheheeeee

[missdiane]

Sis and BIL went to visit and we facetimed. Guy looks ROUGH and so so skinny. It was helpful to have all three of them on the line so that I couldn't get too focused and upset though now that I'm off the phone, I have a weight in my chest and feel overwhelmed.

If/when he goes, I think things are going to hit me hard that both of them are gone. I've been too distracted with trying to be there for him since Mom went.

[halfmoon_mollie1]

I am not one of those folks who will tell you "I understand exactly how you feel" because no one can say that truly. But I do get it, better than I wish I did. I'm here. I admire your strength.