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24 August 2023 14:23The sister, Mom's doctor, and I were finally able to convince Dad to call for transport to the hospital for Mom. Mom hasn't been wanting to talk for days and Dad is getting more and more mentally off as things went along. The emergency button didn't seem to be working for them today(they had them come twice and how I knew Dad was in bad mental shape is that he was convinced that they'd keep coming to take Mom to the bathroom though Sis and I told him that wasn't how it worked).
The sister is being well...her usual-ish self, but it sunk in that she needed to get the ball rolling since I could only do so much online (since traveling isn't an option for me) and we both agreed that our older brother is all kinds of delusional and useless. His first response at Mom not being able to stand and get from chair to wheelchair and such was to order her a chair that can lift. Dude, so what's that going to do? Dump her like a sack of potatoes on the floor? Dad is down to 135 pounds and frail (didn't know he had lost a lot of weight again). He also stopped responding to our texts when I was reaching back out that they needed more help. Asshole.
Anyway, since the sister is a stylist and has all kinds of clients and contacts, she was able to get hold of a client that is in the field of health care advocacy and sales (thank GOODNESS) and Sis and I got Mom's details so we could start with coordinating with her doctor's office. Her doctor was very happy that we were going to arrange to get her to the hospital. I had to walk Dad through how to call 911 and what to say as to where to take her and she's currently where she NEEDS to be. I'm hoping between the sister and I that we can get things sorted with finances and care and yes, it's time to get the both of them somewhere to get round the clock care and hopefully someplace decent. We know that they wanted to stay at home but things have gone downhill enough with both of their conditions that it's time.
Dad didn't go with her but when I talked very briefly to him and told him to get hold of the sister so she can have the advocate get the process started, he seemed FAR more alert and coherent now that what's needed has been done.
I also have the fears since Covid is surging again and neither one of them are vaccinated more than the original shot but we didn't have much choice in getting her there and soon arranging to get them someplace more permanent.
The sister is being well...her usual-ish self, but it sunk in that she needed to get the ball rolling since I could only do so much online (since traveling isn't an option for me) and we both agreed that our older brother is all kinds of delusional and useless. His first response at Mom not being able to stand and get from chair to wheelchair and such was to order her a chair that can lift. Dude, so what's that going to do? Dump her like a sack of potatoes on the floor? Dad is down to 135 pounds and frail (didn't know he had lost a lot of weight again). He also stopped responding to our texts when I was reaching back out that they needed more help. Asshole.
Anyway, since the sister is a stylist and has all kinds of clients and contacts, she was able to get hold of a client that is in the field of health care advocacy and sales (thank GOODNESS) and Sis and I got Mom's details so we could start with coordinating with her doctor's office. Her doctor was very happy that we were going to arrange to get her to the hospital. I had to walk Dad through how to call 911 and what to say as to where to take her and she's currently where she NEEDS to be. I'm hoping between the sister and I that we can get things sorted with finances and care and yes, it's time to get the both of them somewhere to get round the clock care and hopefully someplace decent. We know that they wanted to stay at home but things have gone downhill enough with both of their conditions that it's time.
Dad didn't go with her but when I talked very briefly to him and told him to get hold of the sister so she can have the advocate get the process started, he seemed FAR more alert and coherent now that what's needed has been done.
I also have the fears since Covid is surging again and neither one of them are vaccinated more than the original shot but we didn't have much choice in getting her there and soon arranging to get them someplace more permanent.