Short PSA

[missdiane]

Don't belittle people's fears - fear of what may happen to themselves and the fear for the people they know and love. It's unconscionably rude.

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(frozen) I think it's rude to belittle their GRIEF, but...

[gwendally.livejournal.com]

Some of my friends are over-the-top spinning scare-stories about concentration camps and families being ripped apart. I've heard that at least one teenager in this environment committed suicide. I call foul. This is what is known as "disordered thinking", and suicide is contagious and actual human CHILDREN are dying from fear.

So, yeah, I am happy to give out hugs. I wore all black. It's been pretty sucky. But dial it BACK. Republicans aren't monsters and if you think they are then you're literally suffering from a mental illness and telling people that their fear is outsized is a kindness. Go get some therapy. Get some perspective. Get it together.

Sadness is reasonable. Concern, worry, challenge to figure out how to move agendas forward is good. But look at the GOOD things going on. For example, in Oregon a bi woman Democrat is governor. All the state house and senate are Democrat. The people of your state are not going to turn on you. Literally the most danger your gay children (and MY gay child) are in right now is from SUICIDE because you SCARED THEM TO DEATH.

By the way, the friend who I told this to had a bunch of people jump to his defense to accuse me of practicing medicine without a license (for identifying disordered thinking) and called me an "ableist gaslighter" for speaking without the burden of mental illness. I am a Democrat, but do not pass the Liberal Left Fringe Purity Test. So please, by all means, ignore people who aren't mentally ill if you need to be only around people who share your delusions.

Specifically, the OP should feel free to delete this comment as it's rude, condescending and irritating. I only mention it because your little game of fearmongering is hurting actual people.

(frozen) RE: I think it's rude to belittle their GRIEF, but...

[missdiane.livejournal.com]

Dial what back? I have friends with valid, palpable fears. They've already been harassed by rabid Trump supporters, they're already worried that they are going to lose their healthcare. I am NOT the one stirring their fears, I am asking for people like youto be sympathetic to them and recognize that gee, perhaps they have a good reason to feel afraid. I am the one to say NOT to ignore them, NOT to call them cowards. I am doing 100% the opposite of what you are accusing me of.

Nice to know you can play armchair psychologist and hey, you know what? Some people ARE going to lose their healthcare and won't be able to get that therapy that you're recommending. I'm lucky that I have work-sponsored healthcare and don't have to worry about it myself. I have perspective, you are the one being judgemental and unsympathetic

That and where ANYWHERE did I say Republicans are monsters? I'm the lone registered Democrat in a Republican family and I did not disparage them. Gee, nice to know Oregon will have a nice little forward-thinking bubble but that doesn't represent the nation at large.

Don't you dare blame me for anyone's suicide. You're the one basically telling them to suck it up and that's when they internalize it and commit suicide. My gay friends have enough problems right now with people harassing them for trying to be who they are. They certainly don't need a president and VP who are in favor of stripping them of their rights to be married, visit each other in the hospital and in the VP's case, support such a horrible thing as conversion therapy.

And yes, you are rude, condescending and irritating. I'm sure nothing I said will change your mind but it's important to leave the blathering of judgemental buttholes like yourself out in the open for people to recognize. Check your privilege.