She really is a piece of work

[missdiane]

The birthday for her sister was awkward but going fine until they were wrapping things up to leave (they were only at the house for an hour and a half) and Emily's sister started gaslighting her and being an absolute diva for NO reason. I was in the bedroom hanging out with JonJon at that point since I knew he wasn't comfortable with the people noise. I resisted going out since I didn't want to aggravate the situation any further but I took note that if there are any more gatherings, I will be out in MY living room and if she makes an ass of herself again, she'll have a non-family audience for it which is something I know she doesn't want. From her passive aggressive commentary earlier during dinner, she seemed annoyed that we "made changes" to the house, that the outdoor rugs they left behind and wanted to collect that day were "ruined" (bitch, they were absolutely NASTY when we moved in, don't try to imply we did anything to them), that we weren't going to give them all the leftovers in our glass containers (that we knew we wouldn't get back). Just ridiculous stuff. She acted as if she liked the silly poster but I could tell it annoyed her since she has no sense of humor. She didn't take that nor the birthday card that Emily gave her.

While I was hanging with my fur boy, I could hear her blathering on about how she does so much for everyone and implied that she gets nothing in return...you know, not like Emily didn't just spend $350 on fancy catering and cake and hosted her family for her birthday. Mind, in the house that Emily bought back in 2020 for her sister and the kids to live in where her sister didn't pay anywhere close to the cost of the mortgage and only contributed the equivalent of less than half of what would be rent for our area (yet she thought she had equity in the house when it was time for her to move...yeahhhhh no). Her older daughter started crying and she started antagonizing her about that and trying to force her to come outside to "talk" to her about it.

Appalling to know that she's a social worker in a nearby school district.

As much as we want to be DONE with her and her jerk of a wife, next week is the twins birthday and naturally neither one of them want to do the same thing for the observance of their 19th. Emily's nephew wants McDonald's and ice cream. Emily's niece wants sushi and a confetti cake. There's no place near where the kids live to host the family aside from our house. The next morning, I suggested something to Emily which I hope we can make it happen to keep from hosting again anytime soon. I told her to tell her niece to go along with the McDonalds and ice cream plan so they can go OUT and do that. And then on Friday the 20th when Emily and I are already off since Rutgers will be observing Juneteenth that day, we can take her out separately for sushi and have a confetti cake for her. She wants one of those sushi boats which naturally isn't cheap but I'd split it with her. Emily doesn't eat sushi but I found a place nearby that does the boats and also has other stuff Emily can eat. So hopefully we can make the plan happen.

In other news:
- I got my heart CT this morning so fingers crossed for a low score.
- Poor JonJon can't catch a break since yesterday afternoon the landscaping crew came and were finally able to trim back bushes and trees and prickly things that were overhanging the ramp on the side of the house. There was SO much noise and he was struggling to find a place to escape from it. He ended up for most of it crouched down near the one side of the couch next to where Emily was lounging. Hopefully that means he's starting to see her as a safe person
- I have a three day weekend coming up since I'm taking the next three Mondays off to use up my use vacation days as not to lose any at the fiscal year end this month. It looks like I'd better use this weekend to try to clear out as much as possible at the apartment since the weekend after is forecast to be in the 90s
- Fingers crossed that a check shows up today or tomorrow. My sister contacted me since she was finally going through Dad's stuff and helped file the paperwork for a small insurance policy. She let me know that she received a check for a little over $1K the day before yesterday so hoping mine shows up soon. That'll certainly help my poor depleted savings.
- Work is...work. New person that I was "meh" about in the interview seems ok but I have no illusions that she'll actually be recruited to learn about my stuff. Paperwork to try to reclassify my position still needs submitted but Josh and Elaine are reportedly "working on it" and fingers crossed that Congress doesn't go along with the Orange Menace's plan to eliminate Hatch funding. We have hopeful news that the appropriations committee is working to not have it defunded.

Speaking of work, time to get back to it. Hugs for y'all. Hoping soon to feature some house fun pictures.

Comments

[vysila]

Ugh, few things worse than an entitled family member. I hope Emily was able to take the criticism in stride and not let it bother her too much.

How many kids does this sister have? And how many birthday parties will y'all be expected to provide?

I hope JonJon is settling down and becoming more secure. It's hard for kitties when there is so much going on, and they're just used to peace & quiet with one person.

Fingers crossed the rest of the apartment clean out goes well.

[missdiane]

I know that it bothers her since she doesn't like conflict but I'm proud of her recently for being close to being done with the abuse - because that's what it is.

She has three - all from the same donated sperm so all intentional. Her sister has the older daughter, Linnea, who turned 22 in January. That's the one that her sister made cry. The twins, Miles and Lucia are turning 19. I think that Eleanor will get an unpleasant surprise sooner rather than later that the more the kids finally are able to function on their own that the more she tries to control them, they may likely go no contact with her. I'm glad that the kids have Emily and they have their original "Mama" (Eleanor's ex that didn't get around to officially adopting them but is still helping)

Emily let me know that JonJon accepted treats from her today - SO IT BEGINS lol

Thanks. I need to get the place cleared out, donate more, take the rest of the stuff back to the house and hand those keys IN. I need to get hold of Lucia to have her come help lug trash out to the dumpster. She'll make a few bucks from me and I'll have less heavy bags to lug downstairs. Win Win

[vysila]

Family gaslighting is never a happy thing, nope. Poor Emily. At least she's getting into a much better situation now and standing up to her sister. The whole thing about thinking she had equity in the house - WTF? Such entitlement.

Three mostly grown kids, then. Well, they'll be independent soon enough and then their mother will have to let go or they will rebel.

How exciting that JonJon accepted treats from Emily. He is beginning to accept her as one of his humans - always a happy thing!

Good luck with the cleanout!

[spiffikins]

Glad you guys survived the party and that they didn't stay *too* long - but ugh at the nonsense at the end.

Nothing like people who are always feeling put upon and martyred, but who never recognize what other people are doing for *them* as being meaningful. They don't realize that they are the reason that people ultimately *do* stop doing anything for them - why would you when there is zero appreciation/recognition?

[missdiane]

Exactly. She seriously thinks that she can do no wrong and is shocked, I tell you SHOCKED that people don't fall at her feet to worship. She'd better get used to it since she is running out of cards to play.