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missdianeSis called last night as she was getting off work and since she's the medical POA for Dad now, she gets the calls from the assisted living place. She reports that his "dementia" is getting worse. His what, now? I mean I know he has memory and processing issues but is when did we jump from that to actual dementia?
It seems that when he complains to me about his neighbor yelling through the wall about the noise, saying he's going to kill Dad...it...isn't really happening? At least that's what they say. I'm confused only because while it's getting increasingly harder to talk to him since he loses words and it's like playing 20 questions, he's been consistent in the description of situations.
Sis also pissed me off since she was lamenting about how "busy" she is because she's working more to make more money to get a house BUILT that's even ridiculously bigger than what she has and already doesn't need the obnoxious amount of space. She moved Dad to this place because it's in between her work and home but ever since Dad dared say he didn't want to do the bible study hooha (and Sis tried to act like I talked him into that), she's barely visited him. She even had the audacity to be slightly put out that he said he couldn't go to church on Sunday since he didn't feel well. Mind, this was AFTER she texted me to have me explain his confusing voice mail of which I let her know he's been constipated for days and one treatment didn't help so they were trying something stronger. Yeah, because him suddenly having explosive shits at church would have gone over SO well. Anyway, I digress.
She seemed surprised - and I hope GUILTY - when I told her that I talk to him multiple times a DAY and that I hope things are being investigated and now treated properly.
But if it is dementia, I'm not sure what to say in situations like when I talked to him at lunchtime today and he said he was up all night because the guy behind him was yelling.
Or maybe he wasn't? I don't want to doubt him since that'll just make him feel worse. It's been hard to process and I didn't sleep much at all last night myself, also because I couldn't get the temperature right inside and I was stressed about going back to work so my back was also twinging.
Thankfully only a couple more days and another weekend.
Oh, having good days and bad days with Junie. Doing what I can to try to boost her immune system
It seems that when he complains to me about his neighbor yelling through the wall about the noise, saying he's going to kill Dad...it...isn't really happening? At least that's what they say. I'm confused only because while it's getting increasingly harder to talk to him since he loses words and it's like playing 20 questions, he's been consistent in the description of situations.
Sis also pissed me off since she was lamenting about how "busy" she is because she's working more to make more money to get a house BUILT that's even ridiculously bigger than what she has and already doesn't need the obnoxious amount of space. She moved Dad to this place because it's in between her work and home but ever since Dad dared say he didn't want to do the bible study hooha (and Sis tried to act like I talked him into that), she's barely visited him. She even had the audacity to be slightly put out that he said he couldn't go to church on Sunday since he didn't feel well. Mind, this was AFTER she texted me to have me explain his confusing voice mail of which I let her know he's been constipated for days and one treatment didn't help so they were trying something stronger. Yeah, because him suddenly having explosive shits at church would have gone over SO well. Anyway, I digress.
She seemed surprised - and I hope GUILTY - when I told her that I talk to him multiple times a DAY and that I hope things are being investigated and now treated properly.
But if it is dementia, I'm not sure what to say in situations like when I talked to him at lunchtime today and he said he was up all night because the guy behind him was yelling.
Or maybe he wasn't? I don't want to doubt him since that'll just make him feel worse. It's been hard to process and I didn't sleep much at all last night myself, also because I couldn't get the temperature right inside and I was stressed about going back to work so my back was also twinging.
Thankfully only a couple more days and another weekend.
Oh, having good days and bad days with Junie. Doing what I can to try to boost her immune system
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Date: 27 Mar 2024 19:56 (UTC)no subject
Date: 27 Mar 2024 20:00 (UTC)The cell was because it had renewed for the month and I had to try to walk him through turning it off and on again which was another adventure. I felt bad waiting until after 4 to call him on the other phone. He said he "hadn't been able to call for two days" Uh, dude, more like less than 24 hours but still.
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Date: 28 Mar 2024 13:15 (UTC)If he is eating snacks instead of balanced meals, not drinking enough, and not sleeping well that could be the problem right there. The others could be checked by a review of his meds and a couple cheap blood tests. I'd bug his doctor about the calcium/sodium balance, thyroid, vitamin absorption, and blood sugar issues and if any of his meds could be causing the problem.
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Date: 28 Mar 2024 13:28 (UTC)I know he doesn't drink enough water and since he can't keep weight on, I'm sure that he's not absorbing enough vitamins. I try to encourage him to drink the protein drinks my sister got for him since they have vitamins and DRINK WATER but it's a constant battle. He does eat the meals there though I swear they don't give these old people enough VEGETABLES and he also snacks on the stuff I send.
When he called last night, even though I could understand him better, either stuff IS really happening or he's in fantasy land since the stories he relates are quite elaborate.
If it continues or gets worse, I'll start reaching out to them since Sis is pretty fucking useless.