missdiane: (Sound of Music Hot nun action)
Some things you dismiss but they'll inevitably come cropping back up to nag at your brain. Short background: they are trenching around the outside of our building at work and there are a crew of guys that put sailors to shame with their cussing and aren't exactly the most eye-candy worthy of dudes (Joe quipped that Larry the Cable Guy was working and man, one of them really was a spitting image lol). 

Anyway, yesterday something Elaine said just kind of got under my skin, though it's something that's my issue. She joked that none of the guys outside are at all good looking enough to bother to tell our work friend Latisha to check out. The reason that it got me is that folks don't ever ask about that aspect of me. Whether I've been married (I think they're rather aware that I haven't), whether I've been in a long term relationship (I think they're assuming I haven't, which they would be correct), or whether I've been in a short term relationship (fyi, nope, nothing there either). I know I've mentioned about some actor or something being a hottie and such, but I guess it makes me wonder why no one asks. 

It's funny because I don't even really want anyone to ask because it's embarrassing but it makes me feel like there's something perceived as wrong with me since no one broaches ever the subject at all. I gave up on the concept of bothering to make any attempts at that stuff years ago but ages of social norms are difficult to completely dismiss. 
missdiane: (Amelie turns off the tv)
On the way to work this morning while flipping radio stations (yes, I'm one of those short attention span people), I was listening to a conversation on the radio about this unfortunate woman killed by flying debris at a construction site. But then the female DJ said something that annoyed me. She felt the need to mention about how pretty the woman was and just a beat later mentioned about how it was a tragedy. Uh...what? So if she'd have been ugly, it would been maybe "tragic" but not "OMG!TRAGIC"?

I tweeted something similar to the DJs asking "What if she had been unattractive?" and got a bland response of "it would still be just as much of a tragedy" back and I replied with "It just didn't sound right, IMO" and didn't get anything back. My fabu BFF replied to my tweet with them on it with the even better comment of "That is a silly question, everyone knows that a woman's value is not in her talents, personality, or achievements." which BAM! They ignored it but I'm hoping maybe they'll think a bit more.

I've even heard that about kids when they've been killed, about how "cute" or "beautiful" they were and what does THAT have to do with anything? If the kid is a three-eyed troll, they are still worth the same as the pretty little gems, daggonit!

Then again I have a bit of a personal grump about when they talk about how someone died and how horrible it was because they had children and a spouse. While yes, I agree that it's worse that children will have to grow up without a parent, I can't help but feel that since I have neither, is my life worth less?

Something to think about. 


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